Values in Collision Question Bank

Values in Collision Question Bank

For Coaches, Facilitators and Leaders

Supporting Meaningful Conversations About Competing Values and Impossible Choices

"The path to harmony often lies in learning how to honour what seems impossible to reconcile.”

300+ Questions to Open, Deepen, and Guide Values in Collision Conversations

This question bank provides 300+ ready-to-use questions designed to help coaches, facilitators, and leaders open, deepen, and guide conversations with clients or colleagues facing situations where core values appear to collide—creating seemingly impossible choices between wellbeing and responsibility, security and growth, self-care and obligations to others.

Twelve Essential Conversation Frameworks:

1. Opening Values Collision Conversations – Questions that explore the impossible choice, start from crisis, and address chronic tension
2. Understanding the Values Conflict – Questions that identify core values at stake, examine assumed opposition, and understand the real conflict
3. Recognising Physical and Emotional Signals – Questions about body wisdom, emotional landscape, and recognising unsustainable states
4. Exploring Each Value Deeply – Questions for understanding both values and recognising their interdependence
5. Challenging Either/Or Thinking – Questions that question binary choices, explore creative solutions, and reframe the conflict
6. Practical Integration Strategies – Questions for sequencing solutions, finding partial solutions, and identifying structural changes
7. When One Value Must Take Priority – Questions for making difficult choices, honouring the compromised value, and living with hard choices
8. Financial Security vs. Wellbeing – Questions that understand this specific conflict, examine financial fears, and redefine security
9. Responsibility to Others vs. Self-Care – Questions that understand competing obligations, examine obligation assumptions, and redefine responsibility
10. Present Stability vs. Future Growth – Questions that understand time-based conflicts, examine fear of change, and balance now and later
11. Individual Desire vs. Relationship Commitment – Questions that understand relational conflicts, examine relationship assumptions, and navigate partnership evolution
12. Sustaining Values Integration – Questions for maintaining awareness, adapting over time, and holding space for others through values collision

Throughout the question bank, questions are organised by professional development purpose, allowing you to quickly find language that fits your client’s or colleague’s current moment. Each section includes questions that invite exploration of integration, helping others discover their own clarity about how values that seem to compete might actually support each other.

This resource stands alone as a practical tool for immediate use in professional development sessions, with deeper exploration of values in collision available in School of WorkLife's Values in Collision: Finding Harmony in Competing Values.

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